We live in an age where there is a firehose of information, and there is no hierarchy of what is important and what is not. Where the truth is often fashioned through a variety of digital means. Are you your avatar? Who are you in social media? What face do you turn toward the world? How much does it have in common with who you actually are?
Most of us take great care to protect the image of ourselves. We only show the good, crazy and epic parts of our lives. We show the glamorous side and we want people to know how great we’re doing. We’re all connected and the world is getting smaller by the minute and other peoples’ happiness becomes a burden and a source of anxiety, because: When’s my life gonna be this great?
It’s all void and fake.
There isn’t a single person on this planet with a perfect life. Everyone has regrets. We all have fears. We all have bad days. Our lives aren’t set up perfectly and we don’t have actual filters on our faces to make it out like our lives are wrinkle-free (even the best make-up fades away). It just doesn’t work that way. Please, don’t let yourself be discouraged by other peoples’ seemingly perfect lives. This unsubstantial perfection has no real link to reality.
We’ve created a tangled mess of having everything on one hand and making slaves of ourselves at the same time on the other. We do so willingly and happily. We tend to overlook everything else and only see the numbers on our social media platforms. Slaves had to and have to have their heads cast down in oppression and in fear of punishment. We cast them down at our devices. We do it willingly and happily. They had to and have to go through life not being free to speak, do and be. We do so willingly and happily. We stop ourselves from saying things we think other might not like, we shelter our true feelings and nature in the same way. We’re self-serving slaves of ourselves, our devices and the illusion social media brings. We see each other as competition and are far from happy for others when they share the success they’ve had.
Social media is not at fault, though. We, as individuals, are.
Social media can be an excellent means to connect, entertain, educate and inform. It is a tool with great power to use for a greater good. We make it into what it is.
Don’t let it be a source of frustration for your life. Share what you think others might find interesting, share your values and share stuff that you think someone might use or might benefit from. The word “social” is the opposite of “self-centered”. Try to find the positive in what others post, lift them up with encouragements and if you think your life isn’t worthy of a single post (even though I don’t think that’s really true), try to find inspiration in others. Try to find the light in what you see.
You are the person to choose how you see the world around you and you’re the one in charge of what people see of you.
Social media is an amazing tool, but it’s really the face-to-face interaction that makes a long-term impact.